Having Goals makes a difference in living your best life
“Alice asked the Cheshire Cat, who was sitting in a tree, “What road do I take?”
The cat asked, “Where do you want to go?”
“I don’t know,” Alice answered.
“Then,” said the cat, “it really doesn’t matter, does it?”
Goals make a difference in living your best life. Do you know what you want? And how to get there?
Without a goal or destination in mind, then it does not matter what you do. You will not get to your destination if you do not know where your destination is.
Are the following wishes or goals?
- Take control of my money
- Lose some weight
- Have a better relationship with my spouse
- Go to the gym
- Write a book
- Volunteer at the homeless shelter
All of the above can be both wishes or goals. A wish is something you would like to have. A goal is something you make concrete plans to achieve. A goal has specific steps toward achievement and the goal has a measurable outcome. For example, I can wish that I had more money when I needed it and do absolutely nothing different and be in the same spot next year. Or I can make a budget, decide how much I’ll save each month and then execute the plan to reach my goal of having savings.
Often the first step in changing something from a wish to a goal is picking something that you really care about. Decide where you are willing to put forth new effort, willing to be vulnerable as you learn new ways, and willing to take a next step.
A good place to start on what you want to accomplish in the new year is to think about what did not get done this past year. What is on your to-do list for the next year might come from what was on your 2016 to-do list.
The goals you have may be to read the Adventures of Huckleberry Finn, or to get a new job, or find a new career or to treat yourself better in the new year. The possibilities are endless.
Where in your personal life, professional life, physical well being or spiritual life were you lacking?
Was there a project that you wanted to do, that did not get done for lack of time, courage or ambition?
a little coaching tip #1: Put it in writing.
Write down one thing that you would like to do in the new year. No matter how crazy, no matter how impossible, no matter how improbable. Just write it down. The very process of writing it down is the first step to accomplishment.
a little coaching tip #2: Where do you find your first goal?
To find the first goals for next year, look to your past year’s accomplishments and misses. What did you want to do this last year but did not get to? Or what is the secret dream that you have never said out loud? These are the goals to write down first.
A little coaching tip #3. This is your private list
Nobody has to see your writing but you! You can be a wild or crazy as you want and no one will criticize you or judge you for what you have written. This is your private list and you can dream as big as you want to and then dream even bigger!
We suggest you save the paper or save the document or save the email to yourself. Just save it somewhere. Down the road you will look at it, but for today just write down one goal.